Healthy Marriage Movie Guide: Hitch

This movie is all about getting to know someone.

Discuss:

è Scene 1: “90% of what you’re saying, ain’t coming out of your mouth.” Hitch is trying to teach relational concepts to the men he his helping. He expresses that body language is very important. Do you have good body language in your relationship? Where can you improve?

è Scene 1: “Listen to what she is saying.” This is another piece of advice that is given from the “expert”. How are your verbal communication skills and listening skills in your marriage? When we are with the same person for so long, after awhile things become lax; we are comfortable with who we are and who they are, but we begin to focus less on that other person. Days go on and we all change and grow. Making it a priority to listen to one another is important so that we may know our companions.

è Scene 3: “It’s so beyond anything physical.” Hitch’s Brother-in-law is talking about the depth of love that is present when you fully invest in someone. What are your top three favorite things about your spouse?

è Scene 5: Albert expresses how much her cares about Allegra Cole. He says that all he hopes is that she is happy, even if she is not with him. How often to express love and concern for your spouse?

è Scene 10: Hitch takes Sara on a morning date. He plans to show her a name on Ellis Island, that of her Great-great Grandfather. This is something he hopes to be sentimental. There is a unique story that is brought forth. Do you know each other’s history? Each of you share a story that is unique from your family history.

è Scene 10: Riding Jet-Ski’s and Alex’s “breaks” (I have always wondered if it actually did, or if it was another part of his date scheming…?). As he is getting on with Sara, he kicks her across the face. Oh the ways that we can embarrass ourselves in a relationship, especially in the early dating phases. In your relationship, when things don’t go perfect, are you still able to laugh it off? How can you respond differently/better the next time your spouse messes up (hopefully not by kicking you in the head!)?

è Scene 13: Albert calls up Allegra…to leave a message, but she answers. As he works on being a smooth talker he gets a little hyped up and ends up falling on the floor, from marbles he spilled. Love can sometimes make us choke up. In what ways were you nervous and awkward when getting to know each other?

  

Scene 15: Albert lets loose when dancing. How do you “express” yourself? What do you love about your spouse’s personality? Often in marriage we can find ourselves in a rut and no longer recognizing the uniqueness and beauty in our significant other. Resolve to recognize the areas in which they shine.

è In this movie, Sara and Hitch go about holding secrets, not talking about the things they are concerned about. What problems do secrecy cause in a marriage? What are the benefits of being straight forward and open with each other?

--> Scene 17: Hitch has an allergic reaction to the shell-fish on a date with Sara and her boss+wife. This could be a break through situation—pretty vulnerable. Was there a big/awkward moment that helped you to open up with your to-be spouse?

è There is a lot of dating in the movie “Hitch”. Dating is an important part to intimate relationships. How do you make dating a priority in marriage? What can you do better?  Going on frequent dates with your spouse adds a needed dimension to the relationship. It makes the time to build upon the real relationship. There are so many distractions in life; work, family life, community events, religious activity, and much more. Don’t forget to try for some creativity in dating, too!

è Scene 27: Hitch tries to apologize to Sara and ultimately to get her back. He works on explaining himself to her, as he is formulating the thoughts. When you have been in a fight with your spouse, how do you get past your pride and back on good terms?

è What are the 2 best lessons to take away from “Hitch”?

“Never lie, steal, cheat, or drink. But if you must lie, lie in the arms of the one you love. If you must steal, steal away from bad company. If you must cheat, cheat death.” ~Alex Hitchens