Healthy Marriage Movie Guide-- Letters to Juliet

Discuss:

è Sophie is searching for information on a classic photo, taken in Time Square, that represents love. What classic examples of love can you think of? Share with each other.

è “I was thinking that while I was there…I could write.” Sophie has a hard time getting out what she wants to say. Her fiancé hardly has time for her. Do you know when your spouse is not feeling ok, bothered by something, needing a listening ear?

è A trip to Verona, Italy. Have you been able to take romantic getaways? Honeymoon or since then? How can you have a romantic “getaway” without physically getting-away?  What is a romantic date that you would enjoy?

è Sophie “tags along” on some of the vendor expedition, but her fiancé does not want to join her in the things she is interested in. How do you find balance in sight seeing and other ventures between the two of you?

è “Husbands are like wine, they take a long time to mature.” In what ways do you hope that your spouse never matures?

è Sophie is fighting to tell Victor about the Secretaries of Juliet, but he is consumed in his own things. He grabs the dessert and cuts Sophie off. She loves seeing his passion but wants to feel connected. “Win, win.” How could their communication be improved?

è Sophie reads the old letter that she found to the Secretaries of Juliet. They all give scenarios of the way this woman’s life played out. Where do you see your future going? What changes do you need to make to get to where you want to be?

è “She’s come to find her true love.” What defines true love and how can you keep your love true?

 è “It’s because you don’t have a romantic bone in your body.” Where does the romance come from in your marriage? Think of two things that you could do this week to implement more romance into your relationship and execute them.

è “Underneath he had such a warm and passionate heart.” What about your spouse do you see and know that are somewhat hidden traits?

è “Forgive me, where are my manners?”  “You know I have been wondering that.” Our spouse is the person that we should treat better than anyone else. Have you become lax in your manners and kindness to your spouse?

è Sophie and Charlie go out in Siena to enjoy the sights. They are finally getting to know each other and then he reads some of what she has been writing. They have a little ice cream fight. Why do simple things like this sometime break the ice or get people through rough patches? When was the last time you used comic relief of some sort with your spouse?

è Standing over Lorenzo’s grave, Charlie is angry and yelling at Sophie. Have you ever jumped to conclusions or said the wrong thing without enough information? How do you work through that on both ends?  Apologizing and forgiving?

 

è How amazing to find lost love 50 years later? They both had beautiful, long, happy marriages, but this love came back at the right time.  “No, when we are speaking about love, it is never too late.” What things do you need to do for your spouse now to not be “too late”?

è When you were engaged, were you crazy about each other? If you had gone on a long vacation then or just after being married, wouldn’t you want to spend every moment together?  Sophie thinks about this and how she had a better time with Charlie then she would have had with Victor on the trip.  How can you get back to that feeling of wanting to be together all the time? Do you spend a lot of time together still? “We’re supposed to want to be with each other all the time.”

è Victor doesn’t care to read Sophie’s story. What do you think about this?

è  “You need only the courage to follow your heart.” Do you exert courage in your marriage, in the moments that are hard, the days and weeks that are hard?