Julie & Julia
A
movie full of encouragement, food, laughter, and great husbands!
Supportiveness
è Eric
joins his wife in watching Julia Child’s cooking show. Julie’s project becomes
a sort of obsession with Julia Child and her life. Eric supports her by joining
her in some of her cooking adventures, learning with her, etc. In what ways can
you improve your marital quality time?
è Julie’s
friend asks to interview her for an article she is writing. It ends up being
far from what was implied, and Julie is upset. Did she “fail” her twenties?
Eric tells her that she is a writer and she should have her own blog. How do
you feel about aging and your accomplishments?
è Julia
gets a letter from her sister stating she is pregnant. She is excited, but you
see her fall apart in the kitchen. Paul comes over and holds her. He doesn’t
say anything, just holds her. Sorrows are often in our relationships. Where do you put your time and energy to keep
your mind off disappointments? What moments have you been held through?
è The
husbands in this movie are very encouraging to their wives and their passions,
they encourage their wives through their struggle. “Your book is going to
change the world. Do you hear me?” ~Paul
Are you your spouse’s biggest fan?
Dreams
è Julie
states, “…Because I have A.D.D… That’s why I’m so bad at house work. I’m just
saying it would be good to have a deadline.” Julie’s husband encourages her to
have a deadline of one year from her start date to finish 524 recipes. Where in
life have you “dreamed big”?
è Julia
and Paul are new to Paris and she is trying to figure out “something to do”
with her free time. He asks her, “What is it that you really like to do?”
Answer this question!
è “Wives
don’t do anything here. That’s not me.” … “You like hats” … “I do, I do”. Julia
is feeling lost in what she should spend her time doing. Even in the great city
of Paris she is weary in her overabundant amount of time. When has your spouse
helped you to find your way? Have you ever felt completely lost?
Positivity
è Julie
and her husband Eric move into their new apartment, above a pizzeria. She is
upset about the status of the new place, but he remains positive and says,
“repeat after me. 900 square feet”. Attitude is so important in getting us
through the trials we are seeing. Who in your relationship is more positive or
the encourager? How does changing your perspective make a difference in being
able to move forward in new situations?
è “if I
didn’t sit in the kitchen, I’d never see her”, Paul says about Julia. He is a
notable example of positivity in all things.
Do you see your spouse in their element? Watch them more intently, see
the way they smile and move about as they work in their area.
è Julia
is whipping mayonnaise and her husband comes in asking where his big sprig is.
They seem to joke and LAUGH often. Laughter is said to be a great medicine. It
is a wonderful way to stay positive in our lives. Where is the laughter in your
marriage? How can you better implement this element into your lives?
Improvement
è What
lessons are there to be learned by the lives that Julia and Julie led in this
film? How can these lessons apply to your marriage?
è A theme
throughout the film is finding balance in the things that we do. Both ladies
had challenges in balancing time with their spouse, hobbies, struggles of
infertility, friendships, etc. Is there a one size fits all approach to balance
in life? What works for you?
è “I hate
it here!” Julie shouts as she is upset about the drain clogging from her beef
jell…stuff. Often, we find in marriage that we use our spouse as a punching
bag. As we get overwhelmed with things, they are who we throw our trash at.
Julie vowed to be a better human being after this instance, but she continued
to have different problems and she had more meltdowns. How can you work on
taking things less seriously? How can you not be offended when your spouse may
go too far with their meltdowns?
è In this
movie, Julie is extremely wrapped up in this goal/project of hers. Have you
ever been so wound up in your own project and it is almost like you lose all
control over other areas of your life? Do you have plans and goals in place so
not to get too consumed in other things ad not forget the importance of time in
your marriage relationship?
è Julie
and Eric are arguing after Judith Jones ended up not being able to come. They
are fighting over Julie being self-absorbed. He is upset. This fight ends in
Eric leaving the apartment, not telling Julie where he is going, for how long
or anything. There is the advice that many people get and some live by that you
should never go to bed angry. These two obviously don’t follow this council. Do
you have fight rules? What courtesies or rules can you put into place?
Companionship
è Paul is
into photography and one of his favorite subjects is Julia. He documents her
while she cooks, strolls through the city, and many other things. It can be so
sweet to look back on the things that we have done. Good and not so good times.
How are you on documenting each other through the adventures of life?
è Paul is
helping to teach Julia French. What skills have you gained through the help of
your spouse? What is your spouse a “master” at?
è “What
do you think it means if you don’t like your friends?” … “Men like their
friends”. How are you feeling about the friendships you have? How can your
spouse be a better friend to you? It is important to be able to have other
friendships outside of your marriage. How can you and your spouse build couple
friendships?
è “You are the butter to my bread and the breath
to my life”. This quote was used by Paul to describe Julia and Julie used it at
the end of the movie as she was thanking Eric for supporting her through her
cooking/blogging journey. What sentiments would you say or write about your
spouse?
è Eric
gets Julie a “pearl” necklace for her birthday. It is important to know your
spouse’s love language, to know what things they would appreciate as a gift. Do
you know what your spouse would want for their birthday? Do you ask each other
or do you just “surprise” them?
è Julie
works right next to where the Twin Towers stood just a year prior. She takes
calls from people who are still needing assistance through the aftermath. Do
you and your spouse have plans for if something ever happens to either of you?
è Dorothy
runs off with Ivan Cousins; Paul “couldn’t imagine” it. What type of person did
you imagine you would end up with? Many people have a picture in mind of what they
want, who they want to marry, and other people have ideas for them as well.
What traits were on your “list” of qualifying persons for the spouse “job”?
è There
are a few examples shown in this movie of the benefits of “pillow talk”. Paul
and Julia are shown laying in bed discussing Paul’s career and his worry about
what he will do with his life after retirement and about Julia’s book. Later in
the movie Julie and Eric are in bed talking about how a reporter told Julie
that Julia Child thought that Julie was not respectful of her blog and “hates”
her. It is important to spend time each day talking with our spouse. These
couples reviewed things that happened in their days, what’s on their mind. Do
you do this? How can you better implement this time into your day?
è Julie
gets 65 messages on her phone after her first interview about what she has been
doing. She and her husband are very excited. “You ARE a writer”, he retorts.
She seems to have found a little more of a groove, balance with her life. She
allows herself to just be excited and take time with her husband. Are you and your
spouse happy with the amount of time and intimacy you have together?
Did you like the movie???
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